In
men, the compulsion for a man to demonstrate
his masculinity by thrusting, forceful
lovemaking can contribute to genital armoring
which manifests as a hardening of the penis.
Sometimes men acquire an attitude of sexual
greed which needs repeated genital
stimulation. The story below illustrates what
can happen when these issues are not addressed
and get out of control.
Sasha
and I once had a telephone interview with a
prospective client who had been labeled a
"sex addict" by previous therapists
because he masturbated constantly, frequented
prostitutes and got caught cheating on his
wife with his mistress. His need for continual
genital stimulation led him to masturbating in
his corporate office and in the restrooms of
planes when he traveled. He lost his
high-paying executive position as a CEO with a
major corporation when an employee walked in
on him as he was ejaculating. His wife was
threatening divorce and taking the kids, but
was willing to give him a second chance if he
stopped. He felt helpless to cease his
self-destructive behavior and was terrified he
would get caught again. He never showed for
his appointment with us.
HEALING
SUGGESTIONS:
PSYCHOLOGICAL:
Center yourself and master your sexy and
conservative voices. Access, identify, cathart
and reprogram abuse, incest, rape and
molestations.
PHYSICAL:
Stroke the woman’s sacred sector–inner,
belly-side vagina from pubic bone to orafice.
Help her focus her full attention on her
genitals so she can accept them and learn how
they feel. Many times there will be burning or
areas that are numb. Hold your fingers on that
spot and encourage her to emote and rescript
self-limiting decisions she remembers when you
stroke her. Then she will, with great
pleasure, respond to your stroke. She
ejaculates. Amrita springs from its urethral
font.
When
a woman is healed, her vagina becomes soft,
pliable, naturally yielding and welcoming. The
vaginal muscles become elastic and responsive
to the penis as they pulse, caress and massage
the lingam, naturally expanding to receive and
contracting to embrace.
Women
manipulate the men’s first and second chakra.
Lovingly massage around and inside the
genitals. A man too, regresses, releases
pent-up emotions and learns alternative
behaviors which better serve him now. Help him
transform pain into pleasure.
When
the man is healed, his lingam becomes less
stiff. When erect, it is vibrantly alive, warm
and flexible. He now feels increased
sensitivity in the lingam and is able to feel
more without ever increasing stimulation. This
allows him to relax more in your lovemaking.
Eventually he’ll be able to feel pulses.
Learn
how to receive. As you discover how to love
and accept yourself, you become whole and
healed so that you can freely enter loving
with another person. Now that you have
released, expressed and allowed new programs
to do into your psyche, you can be fully
present for a union with your beloved and the
ecstatic connection of your sacred lovemaking.
Enjoy a wider range of sensuality. Join
genitals. Men, nestle your penis, limp or
erect, into your lover. Men, decide whether
you ejaculate. Retain your ejaculate and pull
your energy up, when you chose, instead of
squirting. It’s easy.
