Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a
match! Looking for love in all the wrong places? Instead
for Singles, our
alternative to blind
dates--often awkward and embarassing---meeting singles in a
bar or over the internet--unrewarding, sometimes disasterous and
for Singles, the
introduction service designed to help you and other daters learn more,
faster, in safe, interesting ways. Our
professional relationship counselors,
Dr. Sasha Lessin and
Janet Kira Lessin,
lovingly guide you to fix fatal
relating flaws fast and discriminately intelligently about what
relationships to deepen.
From our database, you anonymously
select those you're interested in meeting. Then, if they also
want to meet you, meet for a private date at
At Mingles, we guide you and your date through exercises
to help you evaluate your compatiblity with one
another in a conscious, kind way.
decide to be lovers, friends, acquaintences, or go your separate ways;
you don't know until the session's complete. Together we enjoy
the mystery, celebrate the discovery as we use these dating
opportunities to learn how to date more efficiently. At
you date and see each new encounter as an exciting
Each introduction session
is $150.00. You may split the fee with your date or pay the
total fee yourself.
To ensure confidentiality,
you use a dating name that you chose to protect your real indentity.
If you want to reveal your true identity, you may.
Complete a REGISTRATION
FORM to become a member of Mingles
for Singles. Call 808-244-4103 or email
to schedule your ORIENTATION
DreamMaker MEMBERSHIP FEE: Good for DreamMaker Clubs:
MINGLES FOR SINGLES, TANTRA CONNECTION,
POLYAMORY CONNECTION, DreamMaker Mixers
or CLUB TANTRA. Membership
fee must be renewed each year. Fee includes
Orientation Interview or Annual Review. $150.
Orientation Interview ($150) is
required before you can participate in our dating/study groups and
Before we let you attend Level 1 Tantra Events or Tantra
Classes, we guide you in a two-hour Orientation.
There are several variants of the orientation, depending
on whether you come to it alone, come as a pair, or come
as a moresome (triad, quatrad, pod). What you explore in
the orientation depends upon what interests you, what
you seek in exploring sacred sexuality. What you explore
also depends upon your prior experience with tantra as
well as your experie nce clearing with your rearers and
the other significant others in your life. The content
of the interview also varies with your emotional fitness
and prior holotropic, pastlife or shamanic exploratiosn.
If you’re interested in polyamory, the content of your
orientation explores the reactions of your
subpersonalities and partners in multiperson loving.
ORIENTING INTERVIEW FOR INDIVIDUALS
We help you witness and center yourself as you activate
each of your energy centers (chakras). You give each
energy center–perineum, genitals, diaphagm, heart,
throat, vision center, crown--voice (Inner Child, Sexy
Self, Hero, Lover, Communicator, Visionary/Thinker,
Spiritual Aspect, respectively), find out what each
wants and needs in terms of your lovelife. You explore
other subpersonalities that have an interest in your
lovelife–your Inner Critic, Pleaser, Perfectionist,
Artist, etc. so, from your Center you can recognize,
accept and coordinate all your voices from your center.
We give you homework to complete that will continue to
facilitate your growth and appreciation of the needs of
each of your subselves till you next see us for a tantra
event or advanced individual technique lessons.
ORIENTING INTERVIEW FOR PAIRS & MORESOMES
We begin by having you and your partner or partners hold
hands, look into each others’ left eyes till you feel
your oneness with each other, breathe in and out at the
same time, then tell each other what you’d like to get
out of the session a) for yourself as an ind ividual, b)
for you as a couple, triad or group.
ACTIVE LISTENING: We then take you through experiences
that help you get what you want out from this interview.
Some of the variations we use for this are Active
Listening, where you take turns: you, the Speaker, talk
while the other partner (s), the Listener, paraphrases
what you say, till you say, “correct.” The listener asks
if you have more to say and you continue to fully
express yourself while you make sure your partner, in
his or her own words, gets each of your ideas to your
satisfaction. Then your Listener summarizes your main
thoughts, empathizes with your emotions and asks if you
have any behaviors–behaviors that address the needs
underlying what you want--to request. You say what you
want and why you want it, what need motivates your
wants. Your listener or listeners commit to whatever
requests she, he or they can an negotiate the requests
that demand more than they wish to give. They agree to
behaviors in the direction of meeting your needs. We
give you homework to complete that will continue to
facilitate your growth and appreciation of the needs of
each of your subselves and those of your partner or
IMAGO PROCESS: When we have established that you and
your lovers in the orientation can listen
actively–mirror, validate, empathize with, make
behavioral requests–we have you take turns holding each
other while you turn your relationship into a healing
crucible. The imago process teaches you=2 0to defuse
over-reactions to each other and to manage emotional
reactions based the past you don’t distance each other
now based on what happened before. You learn to release
pent-up feelings and rescript once-appropriate but
now-limiting rules. You learn to say what s/he wants
without masking reactions. You request healing behavios
and affirm your new openness. We give you homework to
complete that will continue to facilitate your
relationships and advise you on which of our tantra,
polyamory or shamanic groups would best suit you.
Orientation interview cost: $150.
Call 808 244-4921, write
Mingles is for singles only. $25 per week per person or 10 coupons good for 10
admissions for $200 per person. Annual unlimited admission
pass: $500 per person.