Mingles Mixers, the first part of the evening is structured,
designed to ease tension, elevate everyone energetically and make you
and the group feel comfortable. You'll have fun as you enjoy enlightening structured communication
techniques and adult parlor games we play. At Mingles Mixers,
you join men and women sincerely seeking more depth, intimacy and
understanding. Every week is different, different people,
different exercises, with plenty of fun and excitement for all.
our Mingles dances, you dance into the night, share stimulating
conversation and join the magical mix as you connect consciously in a
relaxed environment. You meet conscious adults of all ages, colors and creeds and
enjoy the music with like-minded people for an unforgettable
experience and the most fun you’ve had with your clothes on.
Now's your time for love.
Call in the
beloved, that love you've longed for. You deserve it. You're ready.
After the structured part of the evening, you're on your own. Dance and enjoy conversing with your new friends. Eye
gaze and fall in love. Fulfill your fantasies. The night's still
Pre-registration required. Directions given after registration.
Bring a potluck dish to share.
are Mingles Mixers? Mingles
Mixer events are more light-hearted fare than the
Mingles Support Group. At our
mixers, you can put your new dating skills to practice in
a super fun way. We hold potlucks,
dances, picnics, parties, outings and events where we feel safe to connect
with other Mingles members and foster relationships and find potential
dates. Dates, times and locations of Mingles Mixers to be
nice about Mingles is if I venture out to the dating world, have an experience
that seems negative and I fall, I don't totally hit bottom as now with
Mingles, I have a support system to help to get back on my feet. Through my
private counseling sessions, support group sessions and and dating classes,
I've learned how to stop the dysfunctional patterns I've repeated time and
again in the past which led me to painful relationships. Now I have
friends and counselors to help me develop healthy dating, communicating and
relating skills. Thank you Lessins for creating this group. Thank you
friends for being there for me. While I've not found my soul mate yet, I
now know that when I do, I'll be ready for him.
DreamMaker MEMBERSHIP FEE: Good for DreamMaker Clubs: MINGLES
FOR SINGLES, TANTRA CONNECTION,
POLYAMORY CONNECTION, DreamMaker Mixers
or CLUB TANTRA. Membership
fee must be renewed each year. Fee includes
Orientation Interview or Annual Review. $150 single, $150 couple, $200 triad.
ORIENTATION INTERVIEW ($150) is
required before you can participate in our dating/study groups and
Before we let you attend Level 1 Tantra Events or Tantra
Classes, we guide you in a two-hour Orientation.
There are several variants of the orientation, depending
on whether you come to it alone, come as a pair, or come
as a moresome (triad, quatrad, pod). What you explore in
the orientation depends upon what interests you, what
you seek in exploring sacred sexuality. What you explore
also depends upon your prior experience with tantra as
well as your experie nce clearing with your rearers and
the other significant others in your life. The content
of the interview also varies with your emotional fitness
and prior holotropic, pastlife or shamanic exploratiosn.
If you’re interested in polyamory, the content of your
orientation explores the reactions of your
subpersonalities and partners in multiperson loving.
ORIENTING INTERVIEW FOR INDIVIDUALS
We help you witness and center yourself as you activate
each of your energy centers (chakras). You give each
energy center–perineum, genitals, diaphagm, heart,
throat, vision center, crown--voice (Inner Child, Sexy
Self, Hero, Lover, Communicator, Visionary/Thinker,
Spiritual Aspect, respectively), find out what each
wants and needs in terms of your lovelife. You explore
other subpersonalities that have an interest in your
lovelife–your Inner Critic, Pleaser, Perfectionist,
Artist, etc. so, from your Center you can recognize,
accept and coordinate all your voices from your center.
We give you homework to complete that will continue to
facilitate your growth and appreciation of the needs of
each of your subselves till you next see us for a tantra
event or advanced individual technique lessons.
ORIENTING INTERVIEW FOR PAIRS & MORESOMES
We begin by having you and your partner or partners hold
hands, look into each others’ left eyes till you feel
your oneness with each other, breathe in and out at the
same time, then tell each other what you’d like to get
out of the session a) for yourself as an ind ividual, b)
for you as a couple, triad or group.
ACTIVE LISTENING: We then take you through experiences
that help you get what you want out from this interview.
Some of the variations we use for this are Active
Listening, where you take turns: you, the Speaker, talk
while the other partner (s), the Listener, paraphrases
what you say, till you say, “correct.” The listener asks
if you have more to say and you continue to fully
express yourself while you make sure your partner, in
his or her own words, gets each of your ideas to your
satisfaction. Then your Listener summarizes your main
thoughts, empathizes with your emotions and asks if you
have any behaviors–behaviors that address the needs
underlying what you want--to request. You say what you
want and why you want it, what need motivates your
wants. Your listener or listeners commit to whatever
requests she, he or they can an negotiate the requests
that demand more than they wish to give. They agree to
behaviors in the direction of meeting your needs. We
give you homework to complete that will continue to
facilitate your growth and appreciation of the needs of
each of your subselves and those of your partner or
IMAGO PROCESS: When we have established that you and
your lovers in the orientation can listen
actively–mirror, validate, empathize with, make
behavioral requests–we have you take turns holding each
other while you turn your relationship into a healing
crucible. The imago process teaches you=2 0to defuse
over-reactions to each other and to manage emotional
reactions based the past you don’t distance each other
now based on what happened before. You learn to release
pent-up feelings and rescript once-appropriate but
now-limiting rules. You learn to say what s/he wants
without masking reactions. You request healing behavios
and affirm your new openness. We give you homework to
complete that will continue to facilitate your
relationships and advise you on which of our tantra,
polyamory or shamanic groups would best suit you.
Orientation interview cost: $150.
Call 808 244-4921, write
Mingles is for singles only. DreamMaker Groups &
Parties: $25 per week per person or 10 coupons good for 10
admissions for $200 per person. Annual unlimited admission
pass: $1000 per person.
is reserved for monogamous singles and has two sections:
TRADITIONAL for heterosexual mongamous singles
UNCONVENTIONAL for gay, lesbian or bisexual monogamous
If you're interested in POLYMORY and other ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES
come to CLUB TANTRA,
or TANTRA CONNECTION