RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING & TANTRA THERAPY  
CHOREOGRAPH YOUR VOICES 

Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.
Lesson IV VOICES & BONDING: Page 1 of 5
CTA 101: CONSCIOUS LOVING RELATIONSHIP SKILLS


Use Voice Dialogue to center yourself and to access, own and integrate your shadow and spiritual selves--your less known inner voices (also known as personality aspects, roles, subselves, subpersonalities, egos).

You center yourself when you hold the tension between opposed inner voices. Centered, you recognize, embrace and coordinate your protective, vulnerable, instinctual and spiritual subselves. Centering’s easier when you review how you develop your many inner selves.

Learn how interactive patterns sour from unexpressed vulnerability and projection of disowned inner voices on others. Practice expressing your hidden hurts and insecurities, say how what bugs you about your friends and lovers is true of you, too.

Draw Your Selves [Adapted from Carter-Haar, B., and Yeomans, T. , Synthesis I, 1974, pp 93 - 102]

With a partner, explore your many inner selves and the way they interact inside you and between you and each of them in the bond dance. Though we wrote directions for partners, you may also do this exercise solo.

     Prepare crayons and two large drawing papers. 

Each of you draws two concentric circles, the outer circle almost touching the outer edges of the page. Divide the outer circle into five pie segments, without penetrating the inner, like this:

Sit, eyes closed. Imagine yourself centered. As Center, you’re the conductor of your symphony of voices. A ball of warm, white light moves up (to your crown) on inhale, down (to your pelvis) on exhale. Gradually, let the ball of light decrease its range of movement--rise less on inhale and fall less on exhale. After a few minutes, let the ball of light center itself between your eyebrows and the back of your head.

When you’re centered, imagine you sit before a closed door. On the door, see a sign that says, "Selves Concerned With Love and Sex."

See Your Sexy Self

See the door open. Out slinks your sexiest voice. It whispers its name. Your sexy voice tells you what it’s like–how it contributes to your inner ecology. Let it describe its job, what it does for you.

Pretend you’re it. As it, your sexiest, feel your existence. What do you want? Why you want it (say your underlying motives. Underlying motives always promote your overall well-being).

As Sexiest voice, what would you would you do if you dominated her or him or her all the time? Say your motto, Sexy Voice.

Disidentify, separate from, differentiate from your Sexy subself. Again become the whole you, your Center.

From your Center, imagine your sexy voice walks from the door and onto one of the blank segments of the pie you’ve drawn. Draw this voice and note what it wants, what it needs, and its motto.

Appreciate Your Protector

Center yourself again and, once more, sit before the door labeled "Selves Concerned with Love and Sex."

The door opens again. This time, out walks a protective subself, a voice that concerns itself with keeping your sexy voice from getting you hurt. Let this inner protector announce its name and say what it’s like–how it functions in your inner ecology and what it does.

Pretend you’re Protector. Feel your existence, what you want and want to prevent. Why do you want that? As Protector, if you dominated your person totally, how would she or he behave? What’s your motto, Protector?

Separate from Protector. Center yourself again. From your Center, imagine your protective voice walks from the door and onto another of the blank segments of the pie you’ve drawn. Draw this voice. Note what it wants and needs; write its motto.

Center yourself before the door labeled "Selves Concerned with Love and Sex."

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RC 20 -29  RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING

ACTIVE LISTENING PAGE 1 PAGE 2 PAGE 3
IMAGO MANAGEMENT PAGE 1 PAGE 2 PAGE 3 PAGE 4
UPLIFTING COMMUNICATIONS PAGE 1 PAGE 2 PAGE 3
CHOREOGRAPH & BONDING PAGE 1 PAGE 2 PAGE 3 PAGE 4 PAGE 5
RELATIONSHIP FITNESS TRAINING PAGE 1 PAGE 2 PAGE 3 PAGE 4
CONSCIOUS LOVEMAKING PAGE 1 PAGE 2 PAGE 3 PAGE 4 PAGE 5 PAGE 6
  

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