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Polyamory, loving more than one in an intimate relationship--who's
doing it? Is it for you? You may wonder: How am I supposed
to do it? How will it affect my life? Is it something new?
Can I convince my partner to try it? Will I lose my job if I'm
polyamorous? What will my family think?
Ask questions. Explore. Take notes. Experiment. Examine all the
possibilities. Maybe you'll decide to become polyamorous. Or perhaps
you'll discover you already are. Polyamory's here to stay.
Polyamory's been with us all along. Our society suffers from
pluralistic ignorance (the plurality (ie other people) believe
everyone's doing one thing--monogamy--, while in reality, secretly,
everyone's doing something else--making love with more than one
partner). DNA reveals the "something else": multiple lovers for
most people.
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Humans
have always loved more than one. They mate, date, procreate and
variate as they mix, mingle and match in a multiplicity of manners.
Polyamory, polygamy, polyandry, polygyny, polyfidelity, group
marriage, open marriage, line marriage, intimate networks, triads,
quattrads, tribes, pods, playmates, playcouples, swingers and
friends--intimacy and love come in many forms. Love, intimacy,
sex, depth of connection and the level of involvement glide and slide
across the relationship dance continuum.
Ethically relate. Honestly date. Access integrity.
Get real. Love who you love. Judge not that ye be judged.
Love when you love, how you want to love. Live life fully from
your own personal truth. As long as all parties concerned are
consenting adults, love in ways that serve you best. LIfe's too
short. If you aren't going to start being real now, then when?
Sure
there're consequences when you speak your truth and start living by
it. But consequences are things you can deal with one way or
another. When you live a life of lies no one ever gets to know
who you really are past the facade you present them. If
you're never known, accepted and loved, you can never really know
yourself. When you are known by others, accepted and loved, you
then know who you really are and can love yourself.
Whatever lifestyle or orientation you chose, be true to yourself.
All relationship styles and orientations have existed since the dawn
of time. Pluralistic ignorance, enforced by religious and
soceital dogma and punishments, kept most of society from consciously
knowing the extent of sexual and relationship options.
Peruse
the internet and discover the truth for yourself. The truth sets
you free. The choice movement has arrived.
We are
finally free to be who we truly are.
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