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COUNSELING
& COACHING: RELATIONSHIPS
SINGLE
MEN
Janet
Kira Lessin, P.T.S. & Sasha Lessin, Ph. D.
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One
is the loneliest number -- NOTI Single by
choice can be fun, empowering, delightful,
entertaining, enjoyable, enlightening.
Single's the time for exploration, self-discovery
and fun.
However,
society wants us to jump into their box--conform, be
monogamous, get married, have children, get a job,
you know, be "normal." What
pressure.
Bull
that it is, we often we "buy it", hook
line and sinker. We want to belong, accepted,
successful (whatever that means). Besides, we
can't seem to enjoy being alone. At least not for
long. Can we?
After
all, humans are social animals. There aren't
very many of us who really like thrashing through
the jungle like solitary beasts stopping
occasionally to feed, conquer and mate. Or are
there?
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Do you want what you want
because you truly want it? Or are you programmed
by society, culture, religion, peer-pressure, Mom,
Pop, to conform, comply and compromise? How do
you separate who you are from your uncontrollable,
subconscious compulsions? How do you find your
true heart's desire when you can't be sure what you
really want because of the continuous input and
pressure from others?
And what if you decide you want a date, life partner,
mate--how do you find her? And once found, how
do you keep her? How can you have the
"happy-ever-after" fairytale romance of
yesteryear?
And what if you decide I want more than one
partner? Am you bad? A sinner? Would your
friends, family, etc. ever approve? Do you
stifle the real you just to suit others?
And what if you want to remain single, for a long
time, perhaps even the rest of you life? How do
you cope with other's disapproval? You hear the
judgment, disgust or pity in their voices when you
tell them you're single. You know they think
you're defective or something. They look
down their noses at you and try to fix you up with
their cousin Susie (who's not your
type).
Each choice has its compromises and
consequences. The important thing is that you
become the chooser and chose the best option for each
moment of your life. What may be the best option
for you when you're twenty may not work for you when
you're forty.
The Lessins help you become the Chooser and free
yourself from programming that limits and binds you
with subconscious reactions that don't serve your
entire ecology and cause drama, trauma, pain and
resentments.
Counseling and coaching for single men:
$150/hour. 808-244-4103. Email: singlemen@schooloftantra.com
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