While there are many models for two couples relating, my favorite one is where the ladies connect first. For me this establishes a foundation of love, empathy and trust between the ladies, who may tend to be competitive, often subconscious, due to being raised in this traditionally competitive, lack-consciousness, patriarchical, dominator-consiousness culture. 

     Personally, I've had a lot of difficulties and hard times in this area in my life. The separation began for me long ago when my girlfriends and I began to develop sexually and we began to vie for the attentions of the boys. Marriage and children completed the alienation process. 

     Having discovered my bisexual side well into my adulthood, I find these interludes to be particularly delightful for they reconnect me with the feminine in ways that I have not known since pre-adolescent childhood. This exercise works for bisexuals and heterosexuals, with slight obvious variations on the theme for personal levels of comfort. 

     Ladies come together and sit facing one another, either sitting yab yum (if you are comfortable with that level of intimacy) or knee to knee.  Do the chakra meditation; share breath and energy.  Look deep in each others' eyes.  Syncopate your breathe.  Breath out your mouth into her nose and receive her breath when she exhales.  Start at her base charka and bless her as you spiritually support her.  Continue up her body and send a supportive meditation blessing each chakra as you move up to her crown.  Say "I love you" and how you love her at each chakra level.  Receive her love as she simultaneously sends love to you on all chakra levels. 

     The men can chose to witness, do a similar ritual themselves or come behind the ladies and hold them as they experience their joining. 

     Bisexual ladies may want to move next into taking turns honoring one another, receiving then giving. Or they may want to mutually honor one another. They may chose to invite the men to join or witness or may prefer to let them continue with their own male bonding ritual. 

     After the yab yum meditation, heterosexual ladies may want to take a few moments to share intimate conversation and discuss their experience. 

     Before the Goddess exchange, it is nice if the couples come back to each other and connect, either by sharing energies, oral lovemaking or intercourse. 

     It is important to maintain the linkage at all times between the partners and if one notices that the linkage has broken, each must have the freedom to speak up and express it, so that linkage can be reconnected. 

     When all feels complete for both couples, the Goddesses may feel it is now time to gift one another with their beloveds simultaneously.  Depending on your limitations and boundaries, the sharing and exchange occurs within those parameters. 

     At the moment of exchange, the ladies may want to connect to one another in some fashion; kissing, holding hands, looking into each other's eyes, while the men change places and begin loving you. 

     Take a moment to shift your attention from your sister Goddess to your new lover, now poised at your sacred shrine. Practice maintaining linkage with your primary, even though he is now physically with another. Shift your gaze from partner to sister-lover to new lover while maintaining the energy link with all by keeping part of your consciousness focused on everyone. 

     Now that you have established contact and can feel it, envision it there no matter where you shift your eyes. Prepare to give and receive pleasure and connect with yet another variation of divine love. 

     Another variation is gifting the Goddess one at a time. Decide which lady goes first and put her in the center. All three may focus on her while she directs what she likes. If the time comes for intercourse, the current partner may gift her sister with her beloved by gently guiding his lingam into her yoni. She may even choose to add to their pleasure while they are joined by assisting with her hands and/or mouth. 

     After a while the four of you may want to free flow and connect in whatever fashion feels good for all. Switch back and forth in all types of configurations and daisy chains. Be creative. This is the time for adult play and fun. 

     Remember your beloved as they are important. New relationship energy can be seductive and appear to be more exciting than the old. In order to really make it work for all, always remember that the new connection is as important as the original one. The way to bring New Relationship Energy back home is to periodically during the evening consciously reconnect with old faithful and remember your love. This simple act of remembrance eliminates many jealousy attacks the next day. 

     Don't be afraid to say you're tired and have had enough. It's easy to get overwhelmed with all the new excitement. If you push yourself too far you may not want to engage in such activities in the future. 

     After the loving Sasha and I return to one another full of the energy of the evening. Some couples like to reserve something special to share that is unique to them. For Sasha and me, we like to save the male ejaculation, which we do at the very end of the evening, right before we are ready to fall asleep. Then we fall asleep in each other's arms, satisfied, pacified, full of bliss and sleep like babies till dawn.