STROKE HER SACRED SECTOR After thirty minutes, I say, "I'd like to enter your sacred cave with my finger." If she’s ready, I moisten my finger in my mouth and place the tip of my ring finger pad on her vaginal opening and say, "Pull my finger in." When I feel her vaginal muscles pulse on my finger, I ease my finger into her cave and curl it inside toward her navel, so it rests gently against her sacred sector/G-spot/yoni nadi/transom. We breathe together, my finger unmoving for ten deep breaths while I imagine an energy-extension of the finger reaching up inside to her heart.

With the finger inside her, I trace a light "come here" motion, caress her G-spot, slowly and softly trace the inner surface of the top of her cave from cervix to orifice as I kiss her pearl, lap her labia, wet her with saliva. I turn my wrist from side to side which moves the finger inside her in a crescent-pattern on the urethral sponge atop the ceiling of her yoni.

After fifteen minutes, I ask, "Would you like two fingers inside?" She nods and I curl the underside of my right middle and ring fingers together along ceiling of her yoni. I move these two fingers and down the transom over the door and out the yoni, with a "come here" motion. My left hand rests gently on her belly and I press the ring and index fingers of this hand into her abdomen just above the pubic bone until I can feel the fingers inside her yoni pushing up to meet the fingers pressing her abdomen. I create dances through the ceiling of the yoni, dances for the fingers inside and the ones outside her. I feel her sacred sector swell between the fingers on her abdomen and those in her vagina. I memorize which internal locations give Janet pleasure.

COACH CATHARSIS If, while I touch inside, she tenses, numbs or burns, I say, "Free associate–say whatever comes." She remembers touch, sex and times that traumatized or closed her down emotionally and sexually. She relives and relates childhood events, pastlives, fantasies, abductions, spirit attachments. She screams, cries, laughs, makes strange sounds.

"Let your feelings out, Sweetheart." I hold her as she sobs and speaks to each person who hurt or neglected her. If she tells me she’s angry at me, I say, "Louder. Let me know how mad I make you." When she’s let all her feelings out, I ask her to fantasize and roleplay a rewrite of the situation. I keep my fingers inside on the spot that triggered her catharsis as I enact her parent or lover the way she wished they’d been. When she relaxes, I move my fingers back and forth from the area that stimulated the painful memories and an area that felt good when touched until she enjoys both places.

ENCOURAGE EJACULATION When Janet recognizes, releases and creates alternative outcomes and we have paired the trigger areas--areas that initially burned, hurt or felt numb–with pleasure, she orgasms (spasmodically contracts her vagina). I make sounds with her. As she orgasms, she simultaneously ejaculates--dribbles or squirts (a few cubic centimeters to several ounces) divine nectar (amrita)--clear or slightly milky, sweet- tasting, alkaline fluid from her urethra into my mouth. I croon, "You're beautiful," "I love you," "You're coming into your power," and other affirmations. These affirmations imprint powerfully as she ejaculates. I keep my right hand in her yoni and hold her close. After several minutes, with added lubricant, very carefully (to prevent tearing the now-desiccated tissue), I withdraw my fingers. I lie next to her, holding her tight, my hand on her yoni.

FEEL FINE WITH 69, THEN RIDE THE WAND. I lie back and we move into mutual oral-genital loving. Janet then turns about, kisses my lips, looks in my eyes, slips my wand into her yoni, rotates and pumps her pelvis around the wand. I avoid ejaculating, I pull my belly toward my spine then up (belly hold-uddiyana bandha) and tighten pc muscles (mula bandha) when I feel prostate and seminal versicles nearing discharge. I save my seed for our evening tryst.

If you don't have time for this full afternoon connect, at least spend fifteen minutes sitting with your legs over each others' hips or lying on one another, gazing in each other's eyes. Let your genitals touch. If you're a man-woman pair, stuff the man's wand into the woman's cave, even if he's limp. If the man has an erection, insert but don't move. That's your preview of coming attractions; save yourenergy for evening.

After our afternoon connect, Janet and I work a few hours, then walk through the woods to the mailbox. I make dinner, we share our news, then go upstairs.

BLESS YOUR EVENING LOVEMAKING At night Janet lies on me. We breath together, then syncopate breath-take turns, exhaling through the mouth into the other's nostrils, saying, "Take in my love, hold it in." and, inhaling, "I take in and hold in your love." I Imagine running energy from the front of my perineum, genitals, belly, throat, heart, brow and crown--chakras into Janet's. We take three such syncopated breaths for each chakra, bless each as follows. We pulse our anal sphincters and say, "I love you. Feel your base and enjoy health, safety and security." Pressing our genitals together, we say, "I love you at your genitals, and bless your sensuality, creativity and sexuality." We touch bellies and say, "I love you in your power chakra; take what's yours." Placing right hands on each others' hearts we say "I send you love from the heart." With our hands on the back of each others' necks: "May you speak honestly and sing your true songs." We join brows and look up into each others' eyes till they appear to merge, then say, " I celebrate how you understand and intuit." Finally, we flow energy between our crowns and say, "I merge with you. May you experience unity with the Universe."

ENGAGE IN EXTENDED LOVEMAKING, EMPLOY HAND-ASSISTED TECHNIQUES In positions that suit our particular bodies (I'm 6'1", she's 5'2"), we make love. When Janet’s on top of me and my wand’s in her yoni I reach my hand behind her buttocks and press the base of my wand and direct the shaft inside Janet to churn, rub and stroke the inside of her yoni in ways she likes.