When they have,
the women who received feel loved, heard, understood and full. She has bared her
soul, been completely open and vulnerable. You, the Giver,
have shown that you can be there for her totally. You gave
fully, undemanding and without expectations of reward and in
return she learned how to meet you, her beloved and devotee at her
sacred shrine. She shared her love, emoted her pain and you
were there unselfishly for her, helping her reconnect with her
body. Now she's free. Her divine inner Goddess emerged and
together you rode the Shakti wave of orgasmic pleasure and
For some, amrita--the divine nector--flowed and
you tasted its sacred waters. For others, the promise of
future episode inspires the new-born Goddess and she feels loved
and adored. Perhaps, someday, she will flow. If not, this is
fun and complete in itself. After all, the goal is
From her center, with her full heart, she feels
complete for now. It's time to
honor you, her beloved, her devoted knight.
This class is similar to the one for couples and singles yet
differs in that the energy of the group can now be harnessed and
shared elevating all to an even higher level combining the love
and devotion of many focusing it on one in the middle.
Lessin, Ph.D. and Janet Kira Lessin--a loving, committed,
demonstrate and coach the givers on how to fully pleasure
a man. Students
may practice this lesson privately or practice it with Janet and Sasha
coaching. Preview Dr. Lessin's instructions
CHAKRA VULERABILITY EXPERIENCE FOR A MAN
Men, lie on your back. Now you're the Receiver. Giver, rest
a hand on his heart and dedicate the focus on him to his healing
and the healing of all men. Then let him set his intention in
receiving your love.
Give him a massage. Then lay your hands on and bless each of his
Giver treat the Receiver to the following strokes about five
minutes each. Encourage the Receiver to make sounds, give verbal
feedback and pulse his anal sphincter whenever he feels
along his wand with your hand or thumb and index finger.
Scratch wand lightly. Pat and slap it lightly. Throw it
from one of his thighs to the other and from one of your
hands to the other.
the tip of his wand toward his navel, hold the base in
one hand and, with the heel of your other hand, press
wand from tip to base, them from base to tip. Slide
your hands and pull the wand; vary strokes from hard to
your hands. Hold the base of his wand with one hand and
twist the other around the wand in a corkscrew motion.
his wand toward his navel and alternate pressing the tip
with your thumbs. Trace circles on the tip and each part
of the shaft.
wand toward his feet and caress it from tip to
the wand between your hands. Tickle and scratch his
jewels. Lightly hold each testicle separately.
The Receiver should exercise ejaculatory control while hes the
focus and throughout the rest of the ceremony, until the final
To avoid squirting before youre ready, Receiver, identify your
sensations the moment before ejaculatory inevitabilityyour
sensations just before your seminal vesicles and prostrate empty.
When you feel ejaculations imminent, avoid pelvic thrusting.
Shift your attention to the Giver's eyes and breathe deeply.
After inhale, move your chin back toward your throat, keeping your
neck straight and long. Then exhale. While empty of air, pull your
belly in and up toward your throat). Tighten your anal sphincter
and pubococcygeal musclespretend youre stopping urination or
preventing vacating your bowels. Imagine pulling energy up from
your rosebud and genitals, up through your spine, out the top of
your head and into the Giver's crown (instead of out your wand
as ejaculate). When you inhale, imagine youre pulling energy
into your genitals from the Giver. Imagine you and they circulate
Breathe together. Adore
the Receiver with your eyes while you hold his wand. Caress his
wand, jewel sack, jewels and perineum with your fingers, hands,
breasts, lips, tongue, genitals and other part's he might find
pleasurable or interesting. Touch, hold, then massage each inch of
his perineum and rosebud (the entrance to his cave).
Receiver says what he feels, remembers and imagines as a Giver
holds his wand in one hand and, with the ring finger of the other
hand, traces the door to his cave. If the Receivers tense but
wants to continue, Giver tells him to control the pace, pressure
and depth of digital penetration by pressing his cave onto the
When the finger first enters the Receivers rosebud, Giver and
Receiver remain motionless for a few minutes. Maintain eye contact
and breathe together. Encourage the Receiver to emote, giggle and
make sounds. Make sounds with the Receiver.
Giver sends love to the Receiver though the finger in the Receivers
cave and through the hand or mouth on the Receivers wand.
Then Giver begins a gentle, "come-here" motion with the
ring finger. Fondle the front inner wall of his cave, pulling
gently from the pubic bone toward the jewels. Move your finger
like a windshield wiper over the front wall of his cave. Trace
circles and figure-eights on the wall. Alternate speed, depth and
pressure of your stroke. See, in his eyes, the effects of your
touches. Say, "Tell me if any place I touch inside you feels
pleasurable, hurts, burns or feels numb." Remember the spots
he finds pleasurable.
If you notice a
painful, numb or burning spot, ask the Receiver to close his eyes
and notice his fantasies, memories and associations. Encourage him
to express his emotions as he shares. Ask him how he'd re-do the
scenes he associates with his pain.
When Caroline, my
Giver, massaged my cave three months after Joan, my wife of twenty
years abruptly left me for a younger man, I was able to release
all the tears Id held in.
"If youd lived the way you preferred, how would your life
have been different? How would you be now?"
move your finger back and forth from the spot that had the painful
association and a pleasurable internal spot, till he reports both
spots feel good. Tell him to remember, in situations that remind
him of his painful imprints, that he could live from his re-done
scene, with it's growth pattern, rather than the self-limiting
program associated with the story he recalled. He has, remind him,